Tony Horton's 5th Law of
Exercise: Reality By Tony Horton
Why do we want life to be different than it
is? Why do we think about who we were and who we're going to be more than who
we are? We certainly talk a good game about who we are now. Why do we try to
predict the future with the hope that wishful thinking is enough to change it?
Life is NOT the way it was. It's the way it is. Life is not our fantasy
predictions of the future or our glory days of the past. Life is that thing
that is happening to you as you read this. Reality. We fall into the trap of
living in the past and future because right here is not good enough. Back then
and up there are keeping you from right now.
This crazy cycle of mind hockey stems from
our inability to stop caring about what other people think of us. The truth is
that other people aren't thinking about you as much as you think they are. We
lament for days, weeks, or years over some comment made in passing, by someone
who forgot what they said 2 minutes after saying it. Other people's opinions of
us are none of our business. Their opinions are their unfinished business.
"The man in the mirror should not
cast stones from his glass house." —T. S. Hortonhead
If you want positive long-term change in
life, accept the truth of your situation and ignore the people who don't
support it. Let go of your ego and find ways to love who you are right now.
Living in the past, in the future, and for others destroys your ability to stay
in the moment. Life has peaks and valleys, ups and downs, lessons, and
celebrations. This is how we grow and learn. If you're struggling with your
finances, get financial advice. If you're unhappy with your health and fitness,
do
Power
90 or
P90X.
You could do nothing and hope that it all gets better on its own, or you could
open a new door and find some answers.
"You can't solve a problem with the
same brain that created it." —Albert Einstein
To know reality is to take risks. Risk
requires perseverance, courage, and wisdom.
Take the Risk*
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Risk saying no.
The first step toward having your own life begins with
daring to refuse the demands of others. Saying yes because you're afraid to say
no is a recipe for resentment. Risk walking away from the fear of saying
NO.
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Risk NOT defending yourself.
It's only when you risk laying down your armor, shield,
and sword (quips, retorts, and criticisms) that you discover who you really
are. You can't be hurt by letting others win.
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Risk appearing stupid.
Pretending to understand something you don't, for fear of
appearing stupid, only ensures that you'll remain a fearful pretender. That is
stupid. If you truly want to understand something, risk asking all the
questions you need to. That's smart.
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 Risk bearing your negative outlook. The
weight of your problems is determined by how much you fear them. But the only
weight any fear can have is determined by how much you try to push it away.
Risk not "burdening others" with your negativity. The less you burden other
people with your problems, the less of a burden they'll be for
you.
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Risk being rejected.
No is just a word, but fear of it is a prophecy
self-fulfilled. Be bold! Risk asking for what you really want. Reject the fear
of being rejected by daring to say no to the fear of NO.
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Risk catching yourself in the act.
Your life can't be both a show and be real. Whenever you
catch yourself in the middle of some self-created drama or lie, just stop it.
Risk being "The Real Thing" and not "All Show and No Go." Life is real only
when you are.
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Risk taking the lead.
You can never know the true pleasure and personal
satisfaction of having your own life until you take the risk of finding it for
yourself, all by yourself. Followers fear the road less traveled. Risk going
out front by traveling the road called "My Own Way."
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The way to live in this world is to live in
the real world. Lift the burden of having to "keep up with the Joneses" all the
time. Stop lying to yourself and everyone else about what you're doing, what
you've done, and what you're going to do. Stop telling others about your hard
workouts and clean diet, and all the while pretending that what you're saying
is true. If it is true . . . guess what? We'll know. Reality is about
discovering the truth about the here and now. Reality is the ability to accept
your present situation and love who you are through the process.
Peace,
Tony H.
*From Design Your
Destiny by Guy Finley, Llewellyn Publications; 2nd edition (January 1,
1951). |
